‘My girlfriend is a busy woman’: She told me to manage her investments and generate 10% returns — she got angry when I refused

I told her that I don’t privation to negociate her investments, and that it’s not just that she’s pushing this work onto me, and blaming maine if things spell awry. She got aggravated and said however engaged she is astatine work, and however stressed she is. And she said that if she can’t spot maine with her money, she can’t spot maine astatine all. 

I don’t deliberation it’s just for maine to enarthrosis concern hazard each by myself portion she calculates however soon she tin discontinue based connected returns that I generated for her.

Conscripted Fund Manager

Dear Conscripted,

We’re each engaged people.

There are nary conscriptees successful relationships, particularly erstwhile it comes to requests involving your oregon their finances. There are lone volunteers. First off: Change your signature to “Volunteering Fund Manager” due to the fact that you are escaped to accidental no. Divorce yourself from your girlfriend’s effect and her affectional absorption — careless of however fierce it whitethorn look — erstwhile you politely decline.

Your reply could spell thing similar this: “It’s not a question of trust. It’s a question of responsibility. I don’t privation to beryllium liable for idiosyncratic else’s investments. Not yours. Not my father’s. Not my adjacent doorway neighbor’s. It’s not personal. I’m not a CPA, and I’m not a fiscal adviser. But adjacent if I were both, I would not beryllium comfy managing your investments. I americium asking you to respect that.”

If she protests, you don’t person to bash thing other but instrumentality to your statement. Just due to the fact that radical get upset with you it doesn’t mean that you person to negociate their concern accounts, sign implicit your home  to your spouse oregon your full estate, oregon bash immoderate fig of things that marque you consciousness uncomfortable. Don’t beryllium held hostage to different people’s anger. 

Start arsenic you mean to continue, and usage this arsenic a template for each aboriginal relationships: nonrecreational and personal. It does not bode good that she believes you should supply fiscal services. You are not to blasted for her being engaged oregon stressed. If you overrule your ain wishes now, you volition acceptable an unhealthy and unhappy precedent successful your relationship. And if your woman does not respect your wishes?

Tell her you’re busy.

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